I’ve really struggled with writing this post. There are so many things I want to say about this and I have no idea how to even organize my thoughts.
This year has been one of great turmoil for me. I’ve done so many things that I thought I couldn’t do, from leaving a toxic marriage to cutting ties with toxic people. I even changed schools, moving from the only public city school I’ve know to a new school on the other side of town. While the other stuff has been hard, this may be the decision I struggled most with, and the one I am still the most unsure about.
I wanted to leave my old school because it was a hard environment to work in. Cattiness among co-workers, kids running rampant in the hall, a lot of protocol but no actual plans, a lack of communication between everyone, and a severe lack of under-appreciation made for a very hostile work environment. When I switched schools I thought things would be better. I thought I would like my job more. I thought I would find the love of teaching that I lost somewhere along the way.
Instead I realized how broken the system really is, at least in Baltimore City Public Schools, and how tired I really am of it. Of all of it.
Simply put, I don’t know if teaching is for me anymore. I’m 37 and I’m tired of feeling this way every single day. I’m tired of counting down the days and always living for Friday. I’m tired of just making it through…or simply thinking “If I can just get through (this week, this day, testing, staff meeting, observation, etc.) everything will be ok.”
I’m tired of having people breathing down my throat when 5 year olds can’t read, telling me to take my planning time to give more intervention. Give more repetition. Give more homework. Work harder. Drill…drill…drill. THEY. ARE. FIVE. Let them rest. Let them play. Give them the opportunities to learn, but let them find their own way. Max left Kindergarten hardly reading anything and now in third grade he is on a fifth grade reading level. And it has nothing to do with me. At 5 he simply wasn’t ready. At 6 he was. And because I didn’t push him and didn’t freak out and because his teacher was awesome and did the same thing he loves school and he loves to read. Yes, by all means, if students need services and testing please get them early on. But sometimes kids just need TIME and that’s Ok.
I’m tired of all academics all the time. In grad school we learn that kids need play. Studies all over the world show us that kids need play. Do we do it? NO. Do you know why kids don’t know how to play anymore? Or why they don’t know how to talk to another student? Or why the only way they know how to play is to fight? Because we don’t get time to teach them otherwise. We need to teach them how to socialize, solve problems, work out different situations, be a friend, play games, how to be kind and respectful to every, explore, pretend, etc. and in kindergarten these days we are so focused on academics that the important stuff like socialization and problem solving get pushed under the rug. There is no doubt in my mind that this is one of the contributors to rising school violence.
Do you want to know why kids these days don’t respect their teachers? Because a lot of times, their parents don’t. To parents I’m seen as a babysitter or a necessary evil. I usually have great relationships with my parents, but I know I’ve had some that I’m sure think that I work for them. I’ve had parents bust into my classroom yelling at me, yelling at other students, disrupting the universe and then people wonder why the kid doesn’t listen to their teacher. Out of the 7 teachers Max has had, I’ve liked two of them and “strongly disliked” the rest. Could he tell you which ones I didn’t like? No. Did I always stick up for my kid? Yes. Was I ever disrespectful to one of his teachers? No. And you know what? He never has been either.
I’m tired of giant class sizes. 30 kindergarteners with one teacher is too many, and I’ve seen classes with so many more than that. You want me to have everyone reading on grade level? You want everyone proficient in math? But you also want to give me so many kids that I don’t have time to effectively work with each student…so my scores go down, my raise goes down, my “effectiveness” goes down, and somehow it’s all my fault. Doesn’t quite seem fair to me.
I’m tired of not having time for my own kids because I am too busy testing, grading, lesson planning, collecting data, filling out reports, filling out referrals, staying for meetings, joining committees, plus taking classes to stay certified as well as earn a raise. Along with that I’m tired of having less money for my own family because I’m spending it on my classroom. No one brought snack? I’ll provide it. No one brings schools supplies? I’ll provide it. I need a housekeeping and blocks center, but there’s no toys and equipment. I need cords to run the smart board, but there are no extras in the building. My poor kids are constantly looking for toys I’ve taken into the classroom simply because I couldn’t afford to run out and buy another thing.
Lastly, but mostly, I’m tired of feeling completely unappreciated. Administration…I’m coming for you. For the love of God…say THANK YOU. Tell me I’m doing a good job. Find one good thing to say about me and my classroom. And say it to ME! I’m not expecting this every single day, but every once in a while can’t hurt. Oh…so you don’t think I’m doing a good job? Tell me constructively and help me make it better. The same way I am supposed to do these things with my students.
I love my students, each and every year, even the tough ones (sometimes they are actually my favorite ones), but I’m so tired of faking enthusiasm every single day. I read a post somewhere the other day that said “Kids deserve an excited adult”. Maybe they do, but I don’t think that’s me anymore. I’m doing this because I’m good at it, I have great benefits, and my pay really isn’t that bad. But my drive is gone. My optimism is gone. My excitement is gone.
But in all seriousness I don’t know what else I’d do. I just wish I had time to be able to figure it out.