“As for accomplishments, I just did what I had to do as things came along.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
I tend to spend a lot of my day at school whining. I don’t mean to, but it just seems to happen that way. During planning times, when teachers get together, we try to get it all out so that when the little ones come in we can paste on those smiles and dispense with the positive reinforcement and enlightenment needed to teach the future leaders of tomorrow.
During one such whine session a colleague and I were talking about having “real” accomplishments in our lives, things that we are actually doing for ourselves (not out kids, husbands, families) to move our lives in the direction it should be going to fulfill, for lack of a better word, our destiny. In a nutshell, we know we are meant for more than this.
She gave me a challenge. Come up with 10 things I can actually accomplish in the next 31 days that will put me closer to goal of simply finding out what I want out of life. I have to admit, I have really struggled with this list. I always thought I knew exactly what I wanted to do/be/accomplish, but as it turns out I don’t. I actually haven’t got a clue. So much of what I have done over the last 4 or 5 years has focused on other people. I don’t even now what I want anymore. The real challenge for me is that these accomplishments need to be specific, and for all purposes, measurable. No vagueness allowed, which has always been my crutch when I wanted to avoid striving for accomplishments.
After two days I was finally able to come up with a few things.
- Complete a 5K
- Make strides to become a better wife. This month’s goal: Have one “at home” date night per week and two “going out” date nights this month.
- Apply for 5 jobs that I would actually go on an interview for, even if I am not completely qualified.
- Spend more quality time with my children and really get to know them. Each child gets one date day/night with just me per week. I promise, this is for me, not them.
- Read three new books this month.
- Come up with a savings plan.
- Write at least two blog posts this month
- By the end of the month, be soda free
- Find a new hobby, that I can do without current friends/family (as in something completely for myself)
- Take one photo everyday to document a moment that makes me smile. This will remind me that I was happy at least once a day this month.
I have to admit I actually liked coming up with this list. It was great to think about what I could actually accomplish. It is taking all my strength to not just keep adding and adding and adding to this list, but I have to remember this is not the point. To really have the opportunity to focus on these 10 items will ensure success instead of bogging down my list with a hundred things without a focus and really, without a hope of getting accomplished.
Or at least I hope so.