“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~Lao Tzu
Life has a way Sometimes, wanting to change
When you don’t know where to start, just start.
Charlie has become obsessed with my phone. Sometimes I flip through random crap while I’m feeding her because, while I know this is a perfect bonding time, this is also one of the few times I have when more than one kid is not climbing all over my body. When it started she would simply turn her head towards the light. Now, she stops eating and begins grabbing at it. She’s not even four months old yet and already she is falling into the technology trap.
I’ll be the first to admit, I’m addicted to my phone. I’d like say that I mostly use it for music, my running apps, and looking up random crap on Google when my kids need to know something that I don’t know (life span of a cicada anyone?). But in the interest of full disclosure, that’s a load of crap. Most of my time is spent checking Facebook. And I’m pretty ashamed to admit it.
Half the time I don’t even realize I’m doing it. It’s like my finger is drawn to that little blue icon of its own free will. I’ll start scrolling through and randomly liking pictures and statues without even realizing what I’m doing. There’s also the posting, as if I feel that I need to share every little thing with all my “friends”.
And if we’re being really, really honest there’s the Facebook stalking: the checking of statuses, pictures, profiles of people I’m “friends” with (and even those I’m not “friends” with). What, oh what, have I become?
I compare. I judge. I check. I get depressed by things I learn. And all of this is ridiculous. It’s Facebook. Facebook. I’m getting worked up and sad over freaking Facebook. I’m a 34 year old high schooler.
I read this great article the other day. Ironically, it popped up on Facebook. And three days later I’ve read it 10 times. I know this is what I need to do. For me. For my family. And even for my marathon training.
The sad thing is, pretty much everyone I interact with on Facebook, I also interact with in the “real world”. We text, we chat, we hang out. And yet, I feel like I need the validation of this friendship online as well…and I shouldn’t.
I could just delete that little icon or simply not log in. But I know that won’t happen. So I need it gone completely. Just for a little while. Just to detox. A week, maybe two.
I’ll see you on the flip side.