I started the post awhile ago and then stopped. There are so many truths within it that I just didn’t know if I was willing to face them. By admitting these things, I feel like my life course, my life as I know it, essentially all that I am, will be different. And I’m literally writing this after I had a mental breakdown on the side of the road at 5:30 in the morning.
I started running when my dad died. Ok. That’s not entirely accurate, but that’s the truth that I tend to tell people because it seems more acceptable than the real story. More acceptable and less ugly. But really, what have I got to lose at this point? Nothing. They say the truth will set you free. Well, maybe that’s just what I need. Freedom from who I think I am so I can become the real me.
After my dad died I fell apart. Which was odd to me because we hadn’t spoken in 5 years. But I had often seen myself in him. He was angry a lot and tended to push those who were closest to him away. As I watched him die sick and alone I worried that this is what my life was destined for. And I tried to run away from everything. During that time I got caught up in a relationship that I shouldn’t have. I thought it was healing me when in reality it was slowly dismantling me. When it ended, leaving me heartbroken and empty, I had no idea how to handle two losses in such a short amount of time. So I went for a run. And it truly saved me. I had found something that could put me back together, slowly and piece by piece.
And it worked…for a time.
I loved being able to say I was a runner. It helped me feel accomplished, like I could do anything. It made me feel more confident and pretty bad ass. But it also gave me an escape from my life, the escape I thought I had needed before; a way to “run away” so to speak. In reality, it didn’t save me from myself. It simply gave me the outlet to gloss over my problems; to bury them deep down and save them for another day.
Cut to me crying on the side of the road because I couldn’t run. I have so much going on in my life that I had begun to use running as that escape again. Now I have an injury and can’t run. What am I supposed to do? Without the running, I’m actually going to have to face the demons in my life. I’m actually going to have to figure out what’s wrong and get to the root of my problems.
And I don’t know if I can do that. I’ve been putting them in the background for so long that I don’t how to face my problems without running away. I don’t know if I’m entirely ready to make these hard decisions that I know have to be made. I don’t think I’m disciplined enough to make the changes that I need to make in order to actually survive.
But maybe that’s why this happened. Maybe this injury is the universe’s way of telling me to grow a pair and handle my shit. Because life is short. And time is not guaranteed.
I need to say good-bye to running for awhile. I need to learn how to cope without it. I need to learn how to love myself completely without the label of being a runner. Once I’m whole again, we can start our journey all over, when running is something in my life and not the only thing.
Here goes nothing.